Be In the Present

Are you good at being in the present moment (even the hard moments or seasons) and gleaning what can be beneficial from the experience? Or, do you pine for time lost with regret and sorrow? Do you get anxiety thinking of all the things not yet happened to the point of overwhelm?

Benefits of Being In the Present

The benefits of being in the present are numerous! Enjoying the people, places and moments right where you are makes everyone enjoy the moment more. Making memories with those you love can bring comfort and calm. Also, being in the present is peaceful. When you can intentionally focus on the moment where you are and focus on who you are with, a contentment abides with you, too.

Pitfalls of not Being In the Present

There are many pitfalls to watch for. Thinking of times past leads to sorrow and regret and steals moments away from the ones you love or the places you are right in front of you. Thinking ahead to what you need to do heaps anxiety and overwhelm into your mind which also steals away moments you could be having with loved ones and places. It is only when we start to think back or forward and take our mind off the present that we start to drown.

What To Do?

Tell yourself no amount of regret, sorrow or guilt will change the past. So, you can plan better for the future so you have no regrets when the future becomes the past.

When you look back and reflect, I want you to be satisfied with your effort, your responses and your memories. Click below to get Your To Do List in Perspective Planner so you can get started planning and organizing your best 2025 with intention and motivation. Ditch overwhelm and regret and instead, heap peace and clarity to all you plan to do.

Who will this benefit? Someone who procrastinates. Someone who does not know how to move forward from a loss. Someone who is planning for a kid to move to college. Someone who wants to start a workout plan. Someone who wants to write a book. Someone who is planning a wedding. Someone who needs to rebuild relationships. Click below to get

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Cluttered Home, Cluttered Mind

Have you ever correlated your home with your mind? Which are you?

1. Is your home and mind neat and organized?

2. Is your home and mind scattered and disordered?

3. Is your home used effectively, but your mind is impeded?

4. Is your home a mess, but your mind is arranged effectively?

I admit I am a number 2 with my mind is sprinkled with brilliant clutter.

I have a mistaken belief that if I get my house clean first, I will be able to focus on writing my book or my Life Coaching services. I know this notion needs to be expunged. This pic is not my house, but it could be.

Have you ever seen The Incredibles? Bob gets another call to save the world and angrily yells, "No matter how many times you save the world, it always manages to get back in jeopardy again. I mean... Sometimes I just want it to stay saved, you know? For a little bit."

I catch myself saying, "No matter how many times you clean the house, it always manages to get dirty again immediately. I mean... Can't it just stay clean for a little bit so I can focus on my passion and heart's desire?"

I hope you are a number 1. Maybe a number 3 or 4 would be easier to change. Lately, I have been doing a couple of things that help. Maybe you can implement some of these to help you get back to doing what God has been telling you.

• Decide what God has been telling you to get back to it. Is He wanting you to use your life experiences to help others? Is He nudging you to write a book or blog? Is He saying be the best mom you can be? Does He want you to volunteer? What is God placing on your heart?

• Look around. What is impeding you from doing life with God? My attitude is a big thing. Even doing laundry, dishes and bills, I can do life with God. Those things don't have to be separate; I can involve God in the dishes and laundry and toilet cleaning. What hinders you?

• Ask for help. I am not good at asking for help.

• Do what is in front of you without making excuses. Quick! Say okay and start doing it before your mind and Satan make up a stupid excuse. You have about 1/2 a second.

• I put a tub in the kitchen and began to really evaluate everything. I determined how often I used the thing, if I really loved it, if it was just collecting dust and if I could part with it. Right now I have filled up my tub completely several times and plan to donate it. I could plan to have a garage sale or join a garage sale, but I'll have to store all this stuff, so I am donating it.

Make a list of how you can declutter your mind, body and soul. What can you eliminate? What can you implement? You may think making lists and thinking about these things never helps. Maybe your 2022 goals never panned out, but if you never plan, if you never make a goal, I guarantee, you will hit that. Doing something different is the only way to get something different.

How nice and clean and peaceful this looks. Let's both strive for this in our homes and our minds.

2023: See It Differently

Don’t be deceived in 2023. See it differently.

Is rest one of the things you long for in 2023? Is your mind racing with work responsibilities and tasks at home? Are you trying to figure out how to put in more 'self-care'? Are you planning to exercise? Do you strive to pray more or read more? Do you want to fit in a walk in solitude? Well, I want to help you see 2023 differently.

I believe that REST has nothing to do with how much activity you have going on at work, home or in your mind. Rest does not have to accompany quiet, walking in the woods, a bubble bath or a sleeping baby. You can rest at work, getting dinner ready, in the car pick up line at school and in the committee. Rest does not have to depend on your work load, your location, your list to check off or that long moment when no one needs you.

Rest is like joy in the sense that we talk about joy even in trials. 2 Corinthians 8:2 says, "In the midst of a very severe trial, their overflowing joy and their extreme poverty welled up in rich generosity." You can also have rest even in the busy, in the trials and in the chaos. James 1:2-3 says, "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance."

Rest can be achieved in any situation when you relax and find contentment regardless of circumstances.

Proverbs 19:23, "The fear of the Lord leads to life; then one rests content, untouched by trouble."

How can you be untouched by trouble?

We are called to imitate Jesus. He is humble and gentle and learning those characteristics would serve us well. Matthew 11:29 says, "Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls."

Learn the art of humility. That means you are considerate of other's perspective. It means not getting offended when others express something you don't agree with. Oh how peaceful it is when you do not allow yourself to get offended. It destroys any power they may have over you. It is the ability to relax while someone is passionately telling you why you are wrong or why you should believe what they believe. It is having confidence in what you believe regardless of any outside pressure. We want to fit in and be validated and accepted so much, but being humble in disagreement lavishes peace and contentment over your spirit and rest for your soul. Jesus took this to the extreme and was humble when being beaten, spit on and nailed.

Learn the art of being gentle. This means you are not harsh or violent. You can be kind in any circumstance. But don't think being gentle means being a doormat or pushover. Actually the opposite. Being gentle in overbearing situations is actually the sign of a mature person who can show self-control. Being gentle when every fiber of your being wants to lash out is actually stronger and harder than giving into the explosive behavior. Think of it this way: It's more impressive that a bomb does not go off after the fuse has been lit because it does not happen often. It's like lighting a bottle rocket, running away in anticipation and nothing happens. It was a dud. The situation is totally defused and unimpressive.

Being at rest is easy when you are at the beach, on the porch swing or on vacation, but more impressive is finding rest during disagreement, disrespect, disappointment and discouragement.

I challenge you to pre-plan your responses by writing down a list of your most challenging situations and people. Then, write how you will react, respond and the words you will use that are humble and gentle. When you learn to act counter-culture, counter your feelings, you will truly find out what it means to be free; free of fret, free of regret and free of grudges. And that allows you to rest, relax and be content in a world that is nothing but the opposite.